| For my outward appearance, I wore my illusion, that I | | | | cigarettes at 3am, asking them to come over for one |
| was over it, that ending the relationship was best for | | | | last smoke. Don't accept there IM's, calls, or visits, No |
| us both. But that facade was just smoke and mirrors | | | | Contact. |
| and hollow words. Having a broken heart is like having | | | | Step #2 Remove everything that reminds you of them |
| your ribs broke. The outside looks like there is nothing | | | | Your home is a recovery zone not a torture camber. |
| wrong, but every breath I took hurt. Let's just say, for a | | | | Box op everything that reminds you of them and get |
| long time my ribs were broken. | | | | them out of your house. Out of sight out of mind. Now |
| Now it my shock you to know, that in all other issues | | | | change your surroundings, rearrange the furniture, |
| of my life I was successful and confident. It is true I | | | | redecorate, paint a wall. Changing your surroundings will |
| had a killer job, made plenty of money, plenty of | | | | give your mind different external cues, that will |
| friends, sharp clothes, a great home, and of course | | | | provoke differ ant feelings. |
| excellent taste in music. But for whatever the reason | | | | "Who do you think you are to give me advice?" you |
| this person was my kryptonite. And just like Superman | | | | shout, disrupting your family members. "Why should I |
| I was powerless in there presence. But if you have | | | | listen to you or read any further?" Keep it down crazy, |
| watched the Superman movies you know he always | | | | crazy pants now everyone is looking at you. Let's just |
| figures out how to overcome the kryptonite. Thankfully | | | | say I have experienced truly spirit breaking, self |
| so did I. | | | | esteem crushing, gut wrenchingly painful break ups. |
| Now overcoming kryptonite and getting over a | | | | One was so horrible they made me want to just lie in |
| relationship break up can be incredibly tough. But it is | | | | bed for the rest of my life. Thank God I didn't take that |
| also extremely empowering. But the greatest victory is | | | | choice. Could you imagine the long curling fingernails |
| finally having your life back without the constant | | | | and bedsores. I just believe it is the significant that my |
| heartache present. | | | | worst experience has led me to what I ultimately |
| The cold hard truth about a relationship break up is you | | | | consider the best of my life. Nuff said. |
| are in a sink or swim situation. Some people are | | | | Step#3 Find a relationship break up buddy |
| trapped in a emotional downward spiral their whole life | | | | No that isn't some therapeutic doll that you yell at and |
| because they can not not get over a lost lover. Other | | | | slap around. Just a good friend, that has some |
| people most notably you, see it as a turning point to | | | | knowledge of your relationship, a good listener, and |
| rebuild, reevaluate and sometimes redecorate there | | | | some one close by. I am sure you are strong enough |
| lives. As crazy and messed up as things may seem | | | | to go it all on your own but Van Gogh did to and he |
| right now, this could be the best worst thing that has | | | | ended up mailing is ear to his ex, so why risk it! |
| ever happened to you. So put down the bucket of | | | | Step#4 Get up and get out |
| southern fried chicken, there not hiding in the bottom of | | | | Go somewhere and do something. See a movie, take |
| the bucket and please put some clothes on. Greatness | | | | a walk, volunteer. And don't take your broken heart |
| comes from adversity. | | | | with you, put a smile on and do something that you |
| Step#1 No contact with them for sixty days | | | | have always wanted to do but didn't have the time. |
| This the most important step, you need to detox from | | | | Well now you have the time go and learn something |
| this person. I don't care if they just want to be friends, | | | | about the awesome person that you are. Always |
| or they have some of your things or you were fused | | | | remember that none of your relationships will ever |
| together in a nuclear accident. Lat's say you were | | | | work until you find "The One" that does. And the |
| going to stop smoking, you wouldn't hang out with | | | | difference between that one and all the others will be |
| smokers, buy cigarettes, or get real drunk and IM | | | | completely and utterly profound! |